A man, ‘Indra’ and his wife, started ‘growing apart’ a year after their wedding. So, the end of a relationship is a difficult time for many. However, it was especially hard for Indra. And this is because he was the first, within his Javanese-Muslim family, to divorce.
According to Indra: ‘she was rediscovering her love of religion, I wasn’t. It was another sign she wanted something else, and I was not able to provide that for her.’
Indra describes the way that his personal decision comes with a sense of responsibility to his whole family. His family lives on Indonesia, whilst he is located in Australia.
Indra describes the sense of accountability felt by his friends in Indonesia who have divorced. According to Indra, they have had a more difficult experience. He states; ‘we are the first generation I think that is normalising separation and divorce. It’s harder for our parents to understand this.’
So, Indra’s relationship was suffering for years. However, he only revealed his divorce plans to his family after he’d finalised the decision. Because, according to Indra, ‘if I had told my mum…she would have just pushed me not to get divorced…’
What are the residency requirements for a Californian divorce?
Married people, in California, can only get a divorce if they meet the residency requirements.
And to satisfy California residency requirements, either you or your spouse:
-must have lived in California for the last 6 months
-and the county that is the location of your divorce filing for the last 3 months
-you are able to file for a legal separation even if you are unable to meet the residency condition
Source: https://www.courts.ca.gov/1224.htm
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